Yup, that’s right. Still waiting…..

Work has slowed down a bit after a solid week of coding. We’ve been given the ok to redesign the system (it’s a mess of spaghetti code right now), so I spent the day thinking about data structures and the object that love them.

Saw this article on how parents without kids are happier on Salon today. I didn’t bother to click through and suffer through the ad to read the whole article, since I thought it basically stated the obvious. You don’t choose to have kids to have a happier marriage, and have more fun. Having a kid is probably one of the most selfless acts that a couple can do (short of becoming aid workers to a third world country). Think about it….you’re giving up a certain amount of freedom to focus your life wholly on a human being who is completely dependent on you (at least for a few years). That’s why there’s so many broken marriages and child abuse in this country. People don’t think through what it means to procreate. It’s not about you….it’s about the kid. The kid is not there for your entertainment or your convenience–in fact, it’s the reverse. Americans think they have to give birth and a have a family…they don’t think through it, they just do it, and they’re much worse off.

I know that fatherhood is going to be tough, and it’ll put a strain on my relationship with Jen sometimes. But that’s part of the game….it’s about turning up the volume on life to live it a bit more fully. It’s not about me…it’s about my kid…..

Posted on 6 May 2003